As most of you will have heard, Alan, such a central figure in our Society, died suddenly on Saturday evening, 12 December. Many members will have memories of Alan that they'd like to share, and the first of these appear below. Please add your own contributions by e-mailing them to lyoulten@aol.com Thanks to David Page for the picture above. Others, preferably as .JPG files, would be welcome. Alan's daughter Fiona has asked me to thank the Society's members for their support.
from HilaryRoome:
Always
exceptionally kind, generous and supportive, Alan was for many years
the President of Literary Society and was an enthusiastic participant.
He will be greatly missed.
from Pam Buxton:
I would just like to add my voice to the tributes to
Alan. He was one of the kindest men I have ever met. So thoughtful, so
caring and so observant. Winchelsea will be a lonelier place without him
from Ann Dawson:
There are so many memories of Alan that one could mention but there is one I will never forget. One evening, when my husband Michael was nearing the end of his long battle with cancer, I had to go out for a short time leaving him in the care of my daughter Caroline. On my return I was surprised to be greeted by gales of laughter from upstairs where I found Alan, the much respected and eminent consultant from the Marsden Hospital, with his sleeves rolled up struggling, with Caroline, to instal and activate a special mattress, the arrival of which had coincided with Alan’s visit. Michael was sitting in a chair in fresh pyjamas and Alan insisted on going on to make the bed, departing with a bundle of sheets to put in his washing machine. A true friend indeed.
from William Doherty:
Every life has many
facets and in most instances we are only familiar with a few, which inevitably
gives an incomplete picture in any attempt at memorialising but some people
inspire us to try The American poet and writer advised us
"When
someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time."
I believe she had in mind
the revelatory slip, (think Boris Johnson’s recent Scottish Devolution’s
a disaster and the attempts to row back from it which could most
charitably be described as unconvincing).
It was different with Alan who unobtrusively showed us a succession of admirable qualities; loyalty
– to family, church, professional vocation, community down to clubs and societies;
reliability, an unfailing courtesy, that
quiet sense of service which saw him delivering supplementary background
information to interested members of his Book Group after he presented his last
choice On Chapel Sands and the self-effacing generosity that had two
bottles of wine appearing unheralded on
the table at our medical lunches
My younger self would
never have imagined me having a role model at my age and stage but Alan
provided it – the Christian life, well lived.
from Howard Norton:
When I introduced Alan at my ‘With
Great Pleasure’ session last Friday, I called him ‘The Grand Old Man’ of
the Literary Society. That description was sincerely meant and so well
deserved. He was a Founder Member of the Society and the most loyal of
supporters over many years. I am not even sure that the Society would
have survived, let alone flourished, without his enthusiastic
commitment. I always sensed that, although Alan was involved with
almost every aspect of Winchelsea life, the Literary Society was closest
to his heart. As secretary for many years, he was so good at affirming
other people’s contributions and modest in downplaying his own. His
financial generosity was proverbial; few people knew that for several
years he subsidised the Society by providing our wine.
Alan
emailed me on Saturday morning to thank me for asking him to read - he
was always so gracious in that regard. (On the rare occasions when he
couldn’t attend a meeting he would never fail to send his apologies.)
He went on to say how sorry he was that a couple, long associated with
the society, were not able to join in because they couldn’t Zoom. How
typical of Alan that, in the last hours of his life, he should be
concerned for others.
His
death leaves a void which can never be filled but also a deep gratitude
that we were privileged to share his company for so long.
from Ann & Jonty Driver:
We
were shocked to hear of the death of Alan McKinna, especially so soon
after we had heard him reading splendidly from Alan Bennet at our latest
Zoomed meeting
of Howard Norton's "With Great Pleasure" only a few days ago. We shall miss greatly his generous and wise
presence in our meetings and social gatherings. Alan was widely cultured ; this was apparent from his own "WGP" session last year. We remember too his
contribution to the discussion of John Davison’s
talk about Walter Scott. After that talk, Alan decided he wanted to
send John a gift to show his personal appreciation.
This was something he insisted he would do on his own, outside the WLS. It seemed to us typical of the man.
One often hears people saying that a sudden death must be a kind of blessing.
Oddly enough, The Book of Common Prayer specifically prays that
one shouldn’t have to suffer a sudden death, we guess so one may have
time to confess one’s sins and so go to judgement shriven of sin.
Somehow we doubt Alan was much laden with sin;
he always seemed to us the epitome of goodness, not just a clever
man, but kindness embodied, caring quietly for Mal and for any others
who needed his help. One knew he had faced some immense difficulties in
his personal life these last few years;
but he never complained, just got on with caring for other people. We shall miss him but are very glad we knew him.
from Jan Ziff:
I can hardly begin to express the deep sorrow I feel knowing that the
wonderful, kind, loving, humorous, warm and always welcoming Alan is no
longer among us.
Anon:
Alan McKinna is a loss. A force for good and, I believe, distinguished in his calling.
from Richard and Catherine Thomas:
We will always remember Alan as an exceptionally friendly and kind person,
and almost alarmingly erudite, as he seemed to have read more or less the whole
of English literature, and then, astonishingly, to be able to recall it
all. His devotion to Mal shone through everything that he did in these
last few years as her illness deepened. We often bumped into each other
doing our morning shopping, and when I asked how things were going he invariably
emphasised the positives – that at least they still had each other and could see
the funny side of their situation, and were determined to go on doing so.
At least for Alan has been spared
much of the grimness of old age. He died on his way to a concert which no
doubt he was looking forward to, having spent the previous evening doing one of
the things he most enjoyed and did best.
from Ann Rachlin:
How can I sum up all that Alan McKinna meant to
us in a few short sentences? This was
a man whose warmth and friendship beamed out from him like the golden rays of
the sun drawn by a child. Alan greeted
everyone, friend, acquaintance and stranger with that lovely smile that put you
instantly at ease and a twinkle in his eye that told you that he was a friend.
You could talk about anything to Alan and he
would listen, comment, sometimes with humour and sometimes with a wry smile
that meant he did not totally agree.
He was a man of compassion, always kind, always
considerate and understanding. When he
retired as a doctor, he continued healing with his generosity of spirit and
unfailing support whenever he could see that we would benefit from his
professional knowledge. He was never
too busy to listen and always there, if not in person, at the other end of a
phone or email.
Alan had humour in abundance. Throughout this stressful year, where would
we have been without his emails and his links to something funny, something
serious but important, always something to warm the heart of his friends?
When it comes to caring for the frailty of old
age, there can be no finer example of “in sickness and in health till death do
us part”. His devotion to Mal, his
seemingly inexhaustible patience and his obvious love for his life partner, was
typical of his generosity of spirit. For
those of us who know and understand, he is a role model but a hard act to
follow.
A stalwart of the Winchelsea community, to say
that Alan McKinna will be missed has to be the understatement of the
century. He was always there, supporting
in every way possible, all in spite of his own constant pain and fatigue.
Alan, we will miss you. We think of your gentlemanly greetings at
the Church Market. I see you now with
your shopping bag of goodies, never failing to come and greet us at the piano
where Iain was playing. No Jewish
religious holiday went by without an appropriate card and greeting from Alan. A word of support in troubled times - a
friendly enquiry and, during this pandemic year, even an offer to do some
shopping for us!
Oh yes, Iain and I will miss Alan McKinna for he enriched our lives. We will remember him forever with love.
from Cheryl and Guy Fraser-Sampson :
Our earliest memory of Alan was when he visited us after
Guy's talk to the Literary Society on golden age crime fiction to thank
Guy for an entertaining evening. As newcomers to Winchelsea, that meant
a lot and it was so typical of what a kind and thoughtful human being he
was. We shall miss his gentle humour and friendly face.'.
from Alfred and Caroline McKenney:
Alfred: Alan was one of those people who, although an acquaintance felt a friend. To me this was wonderful. A combination of thoughtfulness and puckish humour led him some years ago to give us an ancient tourist guide he had located called “Here’s England” written by a certain Ruth McKenney. Perhaps he had identified that I might benefit from a few cultural pointers.
Caroline: Alan had a sincerity about him that graced the town. Alan’s enquiring mind would quicken when discussing the natural world; its wonder seemed to increasingly reveal itself to him. A man of much compassion, he will be greatly missed.